Beauty it was said is in the eye of the beholder. Isn’t it a shame that for many women, and especially young girls, it is often hard for them to look in the mirror and see someone beautiful gazing back. The eyes can be the most striking most have ever seen, the lips can be full, pouty, and just what every lip injecting addict is searching for and yet the person in the mirror looks past the beautiful and narrows in on that which they wish they could change.
It is in the pursuit of perfection that every woman looks to change herself. Well, not really. It isn’t in the pursuit of perfection because in reality perfection of beauty doesn’t exist. What one sees as beauty another will overlook. We are once again back to the old phrase “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.”
Could it be then that we should consider that if the person looking back at you in the mirror fails to see beauty then perhaps it is the beholder that has the wrong perception? Perhaps the face in the mirror is beautiful beyond compare but the beholder doesn’t see the beauty. Why would that be? It comes down to confidence. Not pride, not a desire to make others jealous or envious, but rather confidence.
Pride will always “eek” out of the pores and instead of a sense of beauty the person will send off a “vibe” of ego, narcissism, self-centeredness, fakeness, and all the other things that will leave those in a room feeling better when the self-proclaimed beauty leaves the room.
Confidence on the other hand can fill a room with a sense of ease and a person with less than glamorous features can become in the eyes of the whole room the definition of beauty. The funny thing is that instead of trying to make the whole room believe she is beautiful she could care less – being beautiful was not the intention of her being that moment – it was just a sense of being comfortable in who she is as a woman and making those around her feel accepted. She can do that because she has learned to accept herself.
You can’t learn confidence. It won’t come from a new weave, a new wig, a new job, a new outfit, the most expensive pair of sunglasses among your friends, or a shiny brand name car. Confidence comes from a sense of being happy in your own skin and bones and being content with your decisions, behaviors and thoughts for others as a person. It comes from enhancing the you and the end of trying to be someone else.
I have always loved the symbolic gift God gave us in the life cycle of the butterfly. The caterpillar trying to find its way along the ground, on a branch or leaf, exploring and traveling the world. Thinking in life that this is it when all along there is another possibility.
Going into that cocoon takes hard work. The caterpillar works hard, makes sacrifices, stops taking strolls out into the sun but rather finds a place to prepare and face what must be frightening. Then it takes time. Lots of time in the life of that caterpillar. I think that symbolizes the struggles we all face in life and for some the time seems an eternity and it would of course seem that way – just as it must to the caterpillar.
Then one day it comes out from the bottom of that cocoon – not out from the top – but from the bottom – and it emerges as something quite different, beautiful, with unique patterns all its own. Then it flies and sees the world as only few can. I think that cocoon is a gathering of all the things into something symbolic that must be left behind. I think the caterpillar must emerge about the time it realizes that it is what it is and it is time to peek out from what it has built around itself and become all it was meant to become as it discards old beliefs, old habits, false friends, and old false truths.
I hope you will stand in the mirror and no matter what you see staring back at you that you can see that butterfly that is inside the caterpillar. I see it every day in another’s eyes as I look with them into the mirror at the salon.
Here at EBK Beauty we don’t sell weaves, hair styles, or lashes to make you beautiful. It will take you working on the cocoon, choosing to shed what needs to be shed, and coming out from under it to make you truly beautiful. However, we can help you along the way, we can help enhance the beauty that IS YOU – the unique and truly beautiful you. Whether you have just emerged from the cocoon or you are about to start building one or shedding one, we can help you find the unique beauty that you are and show you how to enhance it. We see our role in your life as the “wind” to lift your wings and set your life in flight toward a more complete and true definition of a beautiful you.
We are a salon that truly cares about you – we want to give you the tools, the tips, the help, the touch of our unique skills that will send you soaring high. We want to see you walk out of our salon, into the sun, and watch you stretch out those wings.
So my little butterflies, is today the day you find your wings?
Hope to see you in my chair soon! Keep flying high!
